Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Judged and Misunderstood

The feeling of being misunderstood bothers me. The feeling of being judged hurts.

I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that no one likes experiencing either of these situations. I know that I certainly do not.

I'm going to go farther and say that I'm sure others have felt the same sting of such misconceptions at one time or another in their lives.

This weekend we had the unpleasurable experience of feeling both of these things. Brought on by people that we thought "got it" much more than their actions and comments showed. Apparently, we were mistaken. It concerns me to see the same behavior trickle down to their own children, as well.

I think what infuriates me the most is they don't seem to realize how inconsiderate they have been to us and our child.

Over the past few years of hearing snarky snide comments and having the lingering feeling of perpetually being mocked hanging in the air, I had thought maybe we just needed to talk...let them "in" a little more. Then maybe they would understand.

However, after this weekends events it's apparent that it clearly doesn't matter. We can explain and elaborate until we're blue in the face, but it won't change a thing.

Maybe it's as simple as the old saying "walk a mile in my shoes."

I realize some of it comes down to perspective. What you lived, what you learned, what you shared along the way.

I've learned more than I could have ever imagined when I became a parent...about myself, others, my beliefs. My world changed. That world changed again after becoming a parent to a child with medical needs. I learned so much more about myself, my beliefs and others.

It's interesting to me, as I'm learning along this parenting journey, the types of people that you come across. Some are a welcomed blessing, others you learn to avoid to protect yourself and your family.
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